The title of this post may seem like a strange one, for a homeschooling blog. But it’s something that’s been weighing on my mind lately. My middle child, Bug, is a mystery to me. While Stargirl has thrived in a homeschooling environment, things haven’t gone quite as well for Bug.
Let me back up a few years. When Bug was 18 months old, he went to “school” for the first time. Really, it was a toddler program for early intervention kids. He had some issues with speech and fine motor skills, so we took him to “class” a couple of times a week, where he worked on his skills and played with other kids.
He was still in need of speech therapy when he was 3, so he moved on to preschool. He got to ride the bus to and from school, his speech improved, and he LOVED his classroom environment!
When he was 5, we sent him to our local public school. Once again, he had a wonderful teacher, made some great friends, and really enjoyed school. However, we had a few issues with academics. Bug was brilliant in reading and math, but he struggled with handwriting (he still does). He moved up to a first grade reading class, but that meant he missed math. Technically, it was OK, because he had already passed the kindergarten benchmarks for math. It was the best solution at the time, but it wasn’t ideal.
The following year we pulled him out of school to homeschool him. Our local school district was going to a four day week, and we weren’t happy with that. So for the last three years, we’ve been homeschooling. And for the last three years, Bug has indicated that he misses being in an environment where he sees his friends every day.
Academically, Bug is doing well homeschooling. But he’s a social guy, and even though he takes karate, is active in church, and goes to Cub Scouts, it just doesn’t seem like he gets enough “socialization” for his taste. As an introvert, this is not something I really understand, but I realize he needs people.
He also needs a lot of structure and a lot of direction. Bug does best when he’s busy, but there are times during the day when I’m tied up helping Stargirl with her schoolwork or attending to Boo’s needs. And that’s when Bug starts to get into trouble.
So, my husband and I are thinking of sending him to our local Christian school next year. Bug has mixed feelings. On the one hand, he wants to be around other kids every day. On the other hand, he knows that much more of his day will be tied up with school, and he’s not thrilled about that.
Still, looking into the future, this is a child who will likely want to go to high school to play high school sports. And of course Sportsguy, who graduated from this Christian school and still announces school football and basketball games, would love to see Bug play for his alma mater.
I never thought we’d consider brick and mortor school again. But in this case it may be the best thing. Our decision hinges on a lot of things, most importantly being finances. Barring divine intervention, I’m not sure we can swing tuition, even with some sort of scholarship. However, I’ve seen divine intervention enough times to know that things may change between now and the time we’d need to register him.
Big decisions are on the horizon. What would you do?